The Love Doctor
Well my
dear ones,
As I’ve
noted before,
my
friends cover a wide range of ages
as well
as a diversity of viewpoints.
As for
me,
my
liberal friends think I’m too conservative;
my
conservative friends think I’m too liberal;
and my
Libertarian friends... *shrugs*
they’re
too busy trying to figure out
how to
shrink the government
to take
the time to care what I think. J
Yet I
can’t help but notice that society,
at
least in the USA,
is
becoming very polarized,
and I
don’t find much encouragement in that.
Perhaps
we could benefit from some old wisdom
laid
out by my friend, “The Love Doctor.”
Now the
Love Doctor was a nice guy,
a guy I
worked with long ago,
by the
last name of “Love.”
While
he didn’t actually have a PhD,
he was the
smartest mathematician we knew;
and he
was in his fifties,
while
we were in our twenties,
so we
looked up to him as a mentor;
hence,
us younger engineers started
referring
to him as “Dr. Love,”
which
evolved into “The Love Doctor,”
and “The
Doctor of Love.”
The
Love Doctor was one of the nicest guys
that I
ever met in my life.
He was
also a Mennonite (similar to Amish:
http://thirdway.com/faq/whats-the-difference-between-mennonites-and-amish/
),
so he
was humble and quite modest.
And
since we were young guys,
we
enjoyed teasing him.
One
day, my friend Tommy and I
went to
another engineering group
(which
happened to be young women),
to run
some of our ideas by them.
When
they suggested some changes,
I was
like,
“Well,
I don’t know;
we’ll
have run that by The Love Doctor.”
Tommy: “Yeah,
we’ll have to see what
The
Doctor of Love has to say about that.”
Them: “Oooo,
The Love Doctor?
We need
to meet him.”
Me: “Sure
thing;
come by
our area after lunch.”
*after
returning to our area*
Me: “Hey,
Guy (his actual first name),
some women
are coming by to meet you
after
lunch.”
Tommy: “Yeah,
some 20-something hot chicks
are
looking to meet The Doctor of Love!”
The Love
Doctor: *turning red as a beet*
“Aww,
come on...you guys!”
Heh,
yes, we were jerks;
but the
Love Doctor took it in stride.
And
then, as now, there was much polarization.
It was
an election year,
so we
asked the Love Doctor,
“What should
we do?”
His
advice:
“We’re
supposed to vote for godly men and women
because
they’re godly men and women.”
Us: “But
what if there are no godly ones?”
Him: “Then
vote for the least ungodly.”
That’s
some good advice that simplified my life.
No
matter what king I live under,
my path
remains the same.
Flipping
through the Book of Kings in the Bible,
we see
that there were a total of 43 kings
that ruled
in ancient Israel.
And for
that, only seven of them were righteous.
Yet,
even for all the kings of which it says,
“And he
did evil in the sight of the Lord,”
nowhere
does God add,
“And
hey, since the king’s evil,
you all can do whatever you please;
the king’s not following Me;
hence, you don’t need to either.”
Yes; I
kept looking to find something like that,
but I
never did. J
Hence,
at any time, and in any place on earth,
and
under any ruler under whose authority
I am
required to live out my time,
my task
in simple:
follow
the ruler,
unless
or until they turn from God;
realize
that God passionately pursues
all of
us, and wants us in heaven;
recognize
that God is Love;
love
God and love other people.
May you
know Love and may that guide you.
grace,
peace, and love to you,
dave
life lessons from a tube of toothpaste
Well my
dear ones,
I am
running behind on encouraging things;
the
passing of my Mom took a lot from me;
thank
God, I know I’ll see her again
past
heaven’s gate.
And one
thing I’m really happy about
is
that, while she was here,
I told
her like a million times
how
much I love her;
hence,
if you have someone you love,
someone
who has been a huge
influence
on your life,
please
tell them,
...even
if you’ve told them before
...you can’t
say I love you,
or tell
someone that you care,
too
many times...
...trust
me on that. J
Anyway,
back to some encouraging words
that you
can live by; but first off,
I have
to say that these are not mine;
they
came to me from my friend, Ashley,
and the
story belongs to Amy:
My
daughter starts middle school tomorrow.
We've
decorated her locker,
bought
new uniforms,
even
surprised her with a new backpack.
But
tonight just before bed,
we did
another pre-middle school task
that is
far more important than the others.
I gave
her a tube of toothpaste
and asked
her to squirt it out onto a plate.
When
she finished, I calmly asked her
to put
all the toothpaste back in the tube.
http://theeverencouragingword.blogspot.com/2016/08/toothpaste.html
She
began exclaiming things like
"But
I can't!" and
"It
won't be like it was before!"
I
quietly waited for her to finish
and
then said the following:
"You
will remember this plate of toothpaste
for the
rest of your life.
Your
words have the power of life or death.
As you
go into middle school,
you are
about to see
just
how much weight your words carry.
You are
going to have the opportunity
to use
your words to hurt,
demean,
slander and wound others.
You are
also going to have the opportunity
to use
your words to heal,
encourage,
inspire and love others.
You
will occasionally make the wrong choice;
I can
think of three times this week
I have
used my own words carelessly
and
caused harm.
“Just
like this toothpaste,
once
the words leave your mouth,
you
can't take them back.
Use
your words carefully, Breonna.
When
others are misusing their words,
guard
your words.
Make
the choice every morning
that
life-giving words
will
come out of your mouth.
Decide
tonight that you are
going
to be a life-giver in middle school.
Be
known for your gentleness and compassion.
Use
your life to give life to a world
that so
desperately needs it.
You
will never, ever regret choosing kindness."
Thank
you, Amy!
That’s
a wonderful illustration
of some
great advice; I love it! =D
grace,
peace, and love to you,
dave
The Swamp (or, let kids be kids)
Well my
dear ones,
Something
my wife and I often discuss
is the
change in the way kids now grow up,
compared
to how we did,
and the
change is not for the good.
Would
you like to see a better world?
Me, too.
And it
starts with the way we teach our children.
Here’s
a great article from Miss Hannah Rosin:
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2014/04/hey-parents-leave-those-kids-alone/358631/
“The
Land.” I love the concept, and
I’d
like to see it catch on here in the USA.
Let
kids be kids.
Let
them play.
Let
them use their imagination.
When I
was a kid,
we had
a place like “The Land,”
and
fortunately, it was right
behind
the house we lived in.
If we
cut through a patch of woods
beyond
our backyard,
my sister
and I would come to “the Swamp.”
Basically,
it was a wide, shallow,
very
slow-moving creek that meandered
between
small islands of trees.
As
kids, we thought the Swamp was awesome!
In the
summer,
my
sister and I and other kids
would
build bridges so we could cross
from
one island to the next;
and in
the winter, we would ice skate
on the
ice trails between the islands.
The
Swamp.
I don’t
think it ever covered more
than
perhaps 5 acres at most.
But to
a ten-year-old kid,
it was
a place of mystery,
a place
to be explored.
Over
the years, we kids spent
many
happy hours in the Swamp
with
ZERO parental supervision;
our
parents never set foot in the Swamp
because
it was a place for kids,
a place
for kids to use their imaginations,
a place
for kids to be kids.
I hope
you all had some place like that
when
you were growing up.
And I
really hope that your kids
and
grandkids get to have a place
like the
Swamp,
an
electronics-free environment
where
they can use the “props”
God
provides in nature
to let
their imaginations run free.
grace,
peace, and love to you,
dave